people-pleasing & boundaries

Tired of Saying Yes When You Want to Say No?

You’re ready to stop putting everyone else’s needs first, but worry your boundaries will make you selfish. I’ll help you find your voice so you can speak up without fear or guilt, and without constantly feeling like you need to justify or overexplain.

You're tired of always putting everyone else's needs ahead of your own, simply to keep the peace.

You want to stand up for yourself, but are terrified of conflict. I’ll help you gain confidence to express yourself, without feeling like you have to apologize for existing.

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You Don’t want to struggle to Speak up or Set Boundaries anymore

Maybe you’ve tried to set boundaries in the past and it didn’t go well. You felt guilty or rude, or the other person made you feel bad about it.

But did you know that good boundaries actually preserve and enhance your relationships? It’s true!

Standing up for yourself and asking for what you need doesn’t make you selfish, it’s the only way you can sustainable show up in your relationships.

Getting your needs met doesn’t have to be a fight. It just means you’re tired of being a doormat and are ready to find your voice.

Boundaries might feel scary right now, but through coaching you’ll learning effective techniques to communicate better, set fair boundaries, and maintain them without feeling bad.

Issues I work with:

People-Pleasing: Your needs are usually last in order to feel less anxious, avoid conflict, or make other people happy. You fall into the “nice girl syndrome” trap, which makes you feel like a doormat.

Perfectionism: You feel intense pressure for everything to be OK all the time, including how everyone feels about you. You also feel the need to overexplain yourself in order to be heard.

Standing Up For Yourself: Asking for things is scary! You’d rather self-sacrifice than risk trying and failing. You struggle to even admit what you want or need because you’re so used to suppressing it.

Anxiety Management: Whenever you’re anxious, you avoid, avoid, avoid. It’s the only way you know how to stop feeling bad, but ultimately you know it doesn’t work because the anxiety never fully goes away.

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How Therapy Helps

Having an objective third-party help you means getting a brand new perspective on what needs to change in your relationships. This will help you figure out what to do and how to do it without guilt or fear.

We all need extra support when it’s time to make real changes that impact your relationships. Together, we’ll collaboratively define your new boundaries, build skills to implement them effectively, and create a workable plan to maintain them (even when it’s really hard).

If you’re ready to get your needs met, ask for what you want, and stop feeling taken advantage of, let’s work together to increase your confidence so you can reclaim your energy, time, and peace.

Learn how to Stop People-Pleasing and Start consistently Getting Your needs Met, without feeling bad about it.

Boundaries no longer have to feel scary or rude, or create loads of anxiety. Learn simple ways to express yourself that actually get results, and foundational tools to help maintain them.

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More Confidence

Stop feeling hopeless and start feeling more confident in your assertiveness skills with expert support and guidance. We’ll transform nice into kind, fair, and compassionate.

Together we’ll collaboratively create a plan that works for your unique situation. I’ll also give you tools to manage anxiety, avoidance, and excessive guilt.

We’ll clarify your deeper values and desires so that the same old issues stop getting in the way of what really matters to you.

We’ll get to the root of what you want and how to get it so you can attract more relationships that feel satisfying, respectful, and sustainable.

More Connection

More Conflict Resolution

Learn research-backed tools to minimize unproductive conflict that keeps you stuck in the same unhelpful patterns so you can resolve these issues for good.

Not people-pleasing doesn’t automatically mean more conflict. You may find you actually experience less conflict the more you implement solid. fair boundaries.

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Frequently Asked Questions

  • Yes! I offer a free 15-minute consultation to ensure I’m the best fit for your needs. It will also give you an opportunity to ask me any questions you may have.

  • I work with people-pleasing, anxiety, and boundary setting. If you’re avoiding standing up for yourself, reach out to see if we’re a good fit!

  • I typically recommend at least a few weekly sessions to start. We’ll then collaboratively decide whether that’s working for you, or if we want to move to biweekly or monthly check-ins.

  • The amount of time in therapy really depends on what you’re going through and is different for everyone. If you’re concerned about it being an endless process, I want you to know that I don’t keep people longer than they need it.

    I’m very collaborative, so we’ll talk regularly about your progress and make mutual decisions about how often you’d like to meet.

  • Therapy is an investment and I totally understand there may be times when it doesn’t seem feasible. I hold a limited number of sliding scale spots. If you have a Health Savings Account or Flex Savings Account through your insurance, I accept that as payment. I can also provide an invoice to submit to your insurance for out-of-network reimbursement.

  • I can provide a receipt for out-of-network reimbursement. Please see the “Insurance” information section on my Fees & FAQ page.

Still have more questions? Reach out to schedule a free 15-minute consultation call to get all your questions answered.